Thanks to everyone here for all the info and help prior to our trip. We booked the Tam due to the feedback here and thank goodness we did. I emailed before we went and we got the exact room we wanted - top floor, king bed, block 19. We loved it! The only grumble would be the safe - what a daft position and it could do with being slightly bigger to fit my IPad. The room itself was perfect for us - cleaned daily, loads of towels, great air con and a decent sized balcony which fitted 2 seats and a sunned - but that's another story!
Food is always very subjective - we never went hungry and yes we did prefer the DIvi buffet to the Tam's but the walk was good for us. We tried Ginger, Palm Grill and the Red Parrot and they were all good.
Walked into the high rise area and we were soooo glad we didn't book there, too many people and not enough beach. We much preferred the Tam' s laid back style and empty beach, they just need to get more shade, the carryon every morning to " book" sun beds under cover was worth getting up to watch!
We did one trip to the natural pool with De Palm tours, our driver was Ronald and he even managed to make a breakdown fun for us!
We had a fab time and would definitely recommend Aruba and the Tam to anyone who asks.Thanks again for ell the advice, keep up the good work.