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A Gay Proposal (and Gay Etiquette in Resorts)

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A Gay Proposal (and Gay Etiquette in Resorts)

Whist I hate making an issue out of my sexuality I don't want to offend or cause a scene when on holiday in August with my boyfriend. I know Dubai is culturally different and I respect that. I understand the resorts are quite westernised, we are staying at Le Royal Meridian Beach Resort. Would holding hands around the resort, occasional peck on the cheek be crossing the line?

For the proposal I am planning Sky High Tea in the Skyview Lounge at Burj al Arab, going down on one knee and presenting the ring. So may involve a kiss! Is this scene completely unacceptable or tolerated as I'm a paying customer?

You hear some horror stories, I don't want to offend or get arrested. I'm not into rubbing peoples face in my sexuality to get attention. I just want to be loving to my future husband! I have searched online to find answers but nothing is helpful?

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1. Re: A Gay Proposal (and Gay Etiquette in Resorts)

I would highly recommend not showing any affection or emotions in public as a guy couple including holding hands or a peck on the cheek otherwise you could be reported and get in trouble. Several gays live in dubai but they keep their personal life behind closed doors. Remember this is a conservative islamic country and such behaviour is not acceptable and could put you in deep water.

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You will find Dubai quite tolerant, no one goes around examining people and what they are up to.

So, you should be able to have a nice high tea as a couple, but it would be best to find a more private space for your proposal. Homosexuality is illegal in the UAE and putting it out there could lead to unpleasant consequences.

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I'm afraid you're going to have to keep this low key. It isn't much better for straight couples, although we can at least hold hands occasionally :)

Dubai is tolerant in so far as the majority of people you encounter will be ex-pats or tourists. However, some of our western ways are genuinely offensive to traditional locals and it is their country. The same applies to any unmarried sexual relations, immodest dress, drinking to excess, etc. It goes on but you need to be sensitive and not rub people's noses in it.

Congratulations and good luck; I hope he says 'yes'.

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Get serious please guys, whilst UAE may be tolerant not everyone is, if you happen upon a day when some one takes offence then be prepared for the consequences.

Here is an example of

express.co.uk/news/uk/163005/Couple-who-face…

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Sorry guys, I am also going to rain on your parade! I would strongly suggest against the proposal in BAA and any affection to each other. The consequences of someone making a complaint are too high.

Please feel welcome in Dubai, enjoy your life together but on this one you may have to compromise.

May I suggest requesting a bottle of champagne and some flowers on your balcony at LRM and 'popping' the question there in privacy as the sun goes down?

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Thanks for your advice its appreciated, thought it best to check before things go worng. I want it to be memorable for the right reasons!

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I agree with those above who say it's a very bad idea to show affection in public. All it takes is one person to report you to the police and you will be arrested and thrown in jail. No matter that most people you encounter will be expats or tourists (and many tourists are from other Gulf countries and so likely to take a dim view of homosexuality anyway), there is homophobia amongst those groups too.

You would be asking for trouble by holding hands and exchanging pecks on the cheek in your resort or at afternoon tea. Keep all affection for your hotel room. SwissLe's suggestion for the proposal sounds good to me: romantic but private.

I'm sure you will still be able to have a wonderful holiday in Dubai and a romantic proposal.

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As per above. Please read a bit about Dubai and take it serious.

Homosexuality is forbidden. Forget anything like, going on your knee, holding hands, kiss etc. If you do, you might end up in prison.

<<I'm not into rubbing peoples face in my sexuality to get attention>> Right, hence do nothing in this sense and with nothing I mean nothing.

<<I have searched online to find answers but nothing is helpful?>> Not sure how long you were searching, but google once "Dubai homosexuality".

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I think it's also appropriate to let you know that you will see many men holding hand as it is a cultural norm there; however that's a friendship thing rather than a this is my partner thing.

I would strongly advise against holding hands. A peck on the cheek or a bended knee proposal.

Just don't risk it.

I recall staying at Royal Meriden a few years ago and there was a male gay couple next to us by the pool. They were having a great holiday but very conscious of taking care to keep anything more intimate than putting sun tan lotion on each other for the room