First let me assure you that this question does not come from any old, stuffy, generational angst. I'm a very modern, progressive 50 something and my wife is in her thirties - and we do get around from time-to-time. BUT...
We had dinner last night at Gothman Bar & Grill (still fantastic after all these years!)and I'm completely aware that their dress code is "smart casual, no jacket or tie required."
I always wear a sports cat, usually black, with an nice shirt and slacks. My wife always dresses really nice, whether slacks/sweater or dress.
But I was really shocked last night that too many people dress down as much as possible short of being turned away at the door. Many men particuarly simply looked liked slobs - crumbled khakis, jeans with rips, bright orange shapeless sweaters (there were three of these -what's that all about?), dirty sneakers, and generally unkempt. This was in contrast to other men in jackets, ties, etc.
The women with the unkempt men were just as badly dressed. And interestingly enough (or maybe not) the badly dressed were also the badly behaved - loud and obnoxious.
I know there is a prevailing attitude that if someone is going to drop $200-300 for diner that they feel they should be able to dress anyway they want. But I think that su*ks and demeans the whole experience.
When the bus boy dresses better than you that should be your first sign that you may have missed soemthing along the way.
Am I the only one who feels this way??