I have many happy memories of my childhood vacations to the Outer Banks: jumping in big waves on uncrowded beaches, catching lots of fish at the pier, and climbing the dunes at Jockey Ridge. Now a friend has suggested we take her kids for a week in August. But when I read about three hour traffic jams I wonder if the place has been transformed completely in 30 years. Will I even recognize it? So destination experts please tell me where should we stay if we are seeking relaxation and a nice quiet beach with a touch of the old days where we won't be stuck in traffic every time we leave the house. Also I'm coming from NYC via the Delmarva pennisula so I would like to keep the drive to no more than 9 or 10 hours including stops. Thanks for any advice.